Jealous rage and it's getting violent
Thursday, July 21, 2005
As was the case with the domestic violence issue between Toad & TS, I find out about this newest escapade on a Thursday, following a Wednesday overnight visit with Son. It's on these nights, when CEW is able to run uninhibited and unrestrained by Son. Of course one might asked oneself, what is CEW doing with her then 14 year old daughter. In any event, this story, is more violent and more concerning and not only reinforces the mental make up of CEW, but also raises some alarming concerns about Toad.
Some where along the course of their budding relationship, Toad shares with CEW the name of a person Toad had previously dated. In fact, Toad divulges that he has been exchanging emails with this former love interest. This was a very bad move on the part of Toad and he clearly has not gained a full understanding of CEW.
During my marital years with CEW, she would often send emails and even IM's under my name portending to be me. In fact, this was common operating procedure for CEW. I was never afforded my own, personal email account and if I was, I had to provide her the password. Toad is in the process of learning this basic fundamental.
As the story goes, Love Interest calls Toad on his cell phone on Tuesday, July 19 at 300am. Who knows why, but she wanted to speak with Toad no doubt prompted by their recent email exchanges. Well, guess who answers the phone? CEW. An argument ensues, the call terminates. Love Interest then emails Toad and the following is a summary of that exchange:
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Love Interest: I just wanted to talk to you. I'm sorry I called so late. Your new girlfriend is a pyscho.
Toad (via CEW ): This is CEW. I'm replying for Toad. You think you are so hot. Well anyone could be hot if they had fake boobs.
Love Interest: You wished you looked this hot.
Toad ( via CEW): If you look soo good, then why are you constantly being dumped by men. You are a joke for men to laugh at and a very sick individual. You are a redneck queen in action. For the record, you do not "look good". I am beautiful, plus I have a brain, self respect and self esteem to go with it!! 3 things you can't buy in a surgeon's office honey. Oh yeah, I also have the greatest man in the world who loves and adores me and treats me like a queen,,the same man who didn't want you! Here's an idea, Love Interest, stop hiding behind a telephone and e-mail, and be a real woman, meet me somewhere face to face to spout your little lies and I will show you what a real woman looks like and what she does to protect and defend the people she cares about. OK?
___________________________________________________________________________________________
The final response from CEW is filled with jealousy and rage. Having witnessed this same emotion during and after our marriage, I knew it was not going to end with just an email exchange. CEW was ready for a fight.
The next night is Wednesday, July 20. I have Son for my normal visitation. As the story was communicated to me by CEW, she and Toad drove to Love Interest's apartment in the wee hours of the morning. In an effort to "send a message" to Love Interest, CEW and with Toad in tow, break the windshield on Love Interest's car. Right out of the God Father. In fact, when CEW told me I really got a bit uneasy just knowing this, but on some level I wanted to know this.
Why CEW would tell me, I have no idea. Again, I have to point to the fact, it was a time of detente and she was wrapped up with Toad. I had been relegated to a mere friend, or casual acquaintenace. Maybe she wanted my approval - which she did not get. But I also was not as outspoken against it as I probably should have been. Not that my opinion would have made a difference. And while the idea of actually turning those two in to authorities did cross my mind, I quickly dismissed it. They would deny it. I had no proof other than CEW's word and if I pissed her off I would lose all this time I have with Son. Not to mention all the focus was off of me. I was finally an after thought in CEW's life.
I was now gaining access to information that I probably had no business knowing and I eagerly soaked in all in.
The next day, now Thursday, July 21, Love Interest emails Toad. Here is that exchange:
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Love Interest: Well to let you know someone busted my windshield last night. The apts. are video taped so I may be able to find out just WHO did it. It was one of three people. Toad I am really sorry about this whole thing. You know when we stopped talking that was it we were done. Just don't get this whole thing.
Toad ( or CEW ): Sorry to hear that. Are you okay? Hopefully you can catch the person that did it. I do know that CEW was at my house all night long. CEW still does not have a place to live so her and the children are staying at my house until their new apartment is ready. Let me kn ow if there is nothing I can do.
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Again, I was copied on this exchange. Why? Who knows. Of course even this reponse from CEW / Toad is wrought with untruths. But if they would break out a windshield, one would not expect they own up to the crime or anything else for that matter.
This certainly allows for insight into how CEW and Toad behave and more importantly what they are capable. This will serve me well down the road........
As was the case with the domestic violence issue between Toad & TS, I find out about this newest escapade on a Thursday, following a Wednesday overnight visit with Son. It's on these nights, when CEW is able to run uninhibited and unrestrained by Son. Of course one might asked oneself, what is CEW doing with her then 14 year old daughter. In any event, this story, is more violent and more concerning and not only reinforces the mental make up of CEW, but also raises some alarming concerns about Toad.
Some where along the course of their budding relationship, Toad shares with CEW the name of a person Toad had previously dated. In fact, Toad divulges that he has been exchanging emails with this former love interest. This was a very bad move on the part of Toad and he clearly has not gained a full understanding of CEW.
During my marital years with CEW, she would often send emails and even IM's under my name portending to be me. In fact, this was common operating procedure for CEW. I was never afforded my own, personal email account and if I was, I had to provide her the password. Toad is in the process of learning this basic fundamental.
As the story goes, Love Interest calls Toad on his cell phone on Tuesday, July 19 at 300am. Who knows why, but she wanted to speak with Toad no doubt prompted by their recent email exchanges. Well, guess who answers the phone? CEW. An argument ensues, the call terminates. Love Interest then emails Toad and the following is a summary of that exchange:
______________________________________________________________________________________
Love Interest: I just wanted to talk to you. I'm sorry I called so late. Your new girlfriend is a pyscho.
Toad (via CEW ): This is CEW. I'm replying for Toad. You think you are so hot. Well anyone could be hot if they had fake boobs.
Love Interest: You wished you looked this hot.
Toad ( via CEW): If you look soo good, then why are you constantly being dumped by men. You are a joke for men to laugh at and a very sick individual. You are a redneck queen in action. For the record, you do not "look good". I am beautiful, plus I have a brain, self respect and self esteem to go with it!! 3 things you can't buy in a surgeon's office honey. Oh yeah, I also have the greatest man in the world who loves and adores me and treats me like a queen,,the same man who didn't want you! Here's an idea, Love Interest, stop hiding behind a telephone and e-mail, and be a real woman, meet me somewhere face to face to spout your little lies and I will show you what a real woman looks like and what she does to protect and defend the people she cares about. OK?
___________________________________________________________________________________________
The final response from CEW is filled with jealousy and rage. Having witnessed this same emotion during and after our marriage, I knew it was not going to end with just an email exchange. CEW was ready for a fight.
The next night is Wednesday, July 20. I have Son for my normal visitation. As the story was communicated to me by CEW, she and Toad drove to Love Interest's apartment in the wee hours of the morning. In an effort to "send a message" to Love Interest, CEW and with Toad in tow, break the windshield on Love Interest's car. Right out of the God Father. In fact, when CEW told me I really got a bit uneasy just knowing this, but on some level I wanted to know this.
Why CEW would tell me, I have no idea. Again, I have to point to the fact, it was a time of detente and she was wrapped up with Toad. I had been relegated to a mere friend, or casual acquaintenace. Maybe she wanted my approval - which she did not get. But I also was not as outspoken against it as I probably should have been. Not that my opinion would have made a difference. And while the idea of actually turning those two in to authorities did cross my mind, I quickly dismissed it. They would deny it. I had no proof other than CEW's word and if I pissed her off I would lose all this time I have with Son. Not to mention all the focus was off of me. I was finally an after thought in CEW's life.
I was now gaining access to information that I probably had no business knowing and I eagerly soaked in all in.
The next day, now Thursday, July 21, Love Interest emails Toad. Here is that exchange:
___________________________________________________________________________________________
Love Interest: Well to let you know someone busted my windshield last night. The apts. are video taped so I may be able to find out just WHO did it. It was one of three people. Toad I am really sorry about this whole thing. You know when we stopped talking that was it we were done. Just don't get this whole thing.
Toad ( or CEW ): Sorry to hear that. Are you okay? Hopefully you can catch the person that did it. I do know that CEW was at my house all night long. CEW still does not have a place to live so her and the children are staying at my house until their new apartment is ready. Let me kn ow if there is nothing I can do.
___________________________________________________________________________________________
Again, I was copied on this exchange. Why? Who knows. Of course even this reponse from CEW / Toad is wrought with untruths. But if they would break out a windshield, one would not expect they own up to the crime or anything else for that matter.
This certainly allows for insight into how CEW and Toad behave and more importantly what they are capable. This will serve me well down the road........
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